Aug 17, 2020
Moving to a new city or area can be daunting for any child. As well as the chaos of packing up the house, they have to say goodbye to their friends, teachers, and the familiar comforts of their community. It is difficult enough for an adult, but for a child, it can be overwhelming.
Once you have moved, they have the immense task of settling into their new home and new school, making new friends, and getting used to their new surroundings. One of the fears that many children have is being ‘the new kid’ - trying to find a way to get into established friendship groups without problems. It is especially difficult given the challenges posed by social media.
Thankfully, there are apps out there to help you keep an eye on them, and the mspy price is not prohibitive, so you can rest assured they are safe while making new friends and connections.
Here, we look at some of the ways that if you move into a new area, how you can help to support your child in this often challenging time.
Talk to them about it
One of the things that makes a move so difficult is that adults tend not to involve children and talk to them about it. Talking to them about it at each stage of the process will make it seem a little less scary, as they will know what is coming next. Make sure they know that if they have any questions or worries, they can come to you, and if you do not know the answer, try to find it together.
Give them some control
The lack of control over what is happening to them can be difficult for many children to accept, so give them control and input as much as possible, from getting them to help pack up and unpack their rooms, to deciding how to decorate their new ones. Perhaps on the big moving day you can give them some specific tasks to oversee - keeping drinks bottles filled up or fetching snacks for the adults.
If you are moving to a completely new area where you do not know anyone, both you and they have the scary task of making new friends. While young children are adaptive to it, ones that have been in the same friendship class or group since a young age may find it difficult. If they are old enough to be on social media, maybe they could see if there are any local community groups that they can join.
Look at how you interact with your neighbors and fellow parents, and model how to open a conversation and introduce yourself. The more positive introductions your child sees, the more likely they are to emulate you and start off their own.
Moving to a whole new area can be stressful. While there will be times where you want to bury your head in a pillow and scream, try to stay positive in front of your child where possible.
Hopefully, these tips will make moving house with your children a lot less stressful and a lot smoother.